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The Rich And Spoilt Suffering Over The Gender Binary

Welcome to the pit of gender confusion, where you can drift as far away from reality as your brain cells will allow you before they eventually disintegrate. Presumably, this happens because every atom in your body becomes disoriented, forgetting its natural purpose and refusing to function as it was designed to.

To start with, this is a list of all genders invented so far, which someone took the trouble (and I suspect the headache) to compile. What started as a slight nuancing of male and female stereotypes has morphed into a giant octopus with hundreds of tentacles. The letter A alone encompasses no less than 46 “gender identities”.

Here is a fragment selected at random:

  • Canisgender– A small, doglike gender.
  • Caprigender– A capricious, rapidly changing/untrackable gender.
  • Carmigender– A gender which is poetic and rhythmic in nature.
  • Cassflux– When your level of indifference towards your gender fluctuates.
  • Cassgender– Feeling as if the very concept of gender is unimportant to you.
  • Caveagender–  Having a “trapped” or “imprisoned” gender.
  • Cavusgender– For people with depression. You feel one gender when not depressed and another when depressed. The gender felt whilst depressed can be attached as a suffix (eg cavusboy, cavusgirl, cavusnonbinary, cavusace).
  • Chaosgender– When your gender does a lot of things that have no identifiable pattern or logic.
  • Cheiragender– A fluid gender that is always or often in opposition to its owner’s desires, or is manipulative towards its owner.

     

You might wonder what arguments anyone could bring in favour of this bad acid trip.

Well, there is a very interesting depiction here, in the form of a cartoon, seemingly aimed at pre-school children considering the level of intelligence the artist presumes any reader must have. The text itself is quite funny, in a … morbind sort of way. It’s called “The ultimate breakdown of the gender binary – why it hurts us all.” For an ultimate breakdown, in terms of depth, it reads like something scribbled down in a train station toilet stall.

Suppose we grew up “knowing” there were only two animals: dogs and cats. We’d have to sort completely diffrent animals into two camps! Silly, isn’t it?

On a side note, suppose we grew up “knowing” there were only two types of people: progressives, who possess the ultimate truth and morality (backed up by absolutely no empirical evidence), and the evil rest. We’d have to sort completely different individuals into two camps! Insane, isn’t it?

But that’s what we’ve done with gender!

Except we haven’t. Mother nature has, or whatever you want to call it. The differentiation between sex and gender is a new phenomenon, without which the human species has evolved and thrived since its earliest days. They used to be synonymous; what we have done is redefine the term “gender”. In other words, we turned a word recogising reality into one attempting to reinvent it. This attempt however cannot and will not change reality; not now, not ever. Nature doesn’t operate with abstractions; only humans do.

We do this for rather arbitrary reasons.

Yes; studying and documenting the human body, down to brain chemistry and the way both sexes are affected by it, has always been an arbitrary, futile practice. That’s how we ended up with this international cohort of  weirdoes called doctors, whose utility we only remember when convenient.

The most common argument is that our genitals correspond to our gender.

As mentioned earlier, gender and sex used to be synonymous. One’s genitals correspond to their sex (though they’re trying to demolish that as well now), hence, until recently, they implicitly corresponded to their gender.In this bastardised new understanding, gender is indeed a social construct (which, I repeat, cannot and will never alter reality). And I suppose it may have to be ditched from general use when/ if this madness ends.

We value the physical… over the abstract.

I hate to break it to you but that’s how living beings survive on this planet, at the very basic level. They tend to worry about preserving the physical first, so they would have the opportunity to delve into that fascinating world of ideas and thought systems. For instance by acknowledging their anatomy and the way their bodies work. An otherkin may well think they are an eagle, but would normally know that attempting to fly from a rooftop would be a poorly inspired idea. That is how some people who identify as trans still refuse to mutilate themselves through irreversible operations; it must be the survival instinct inside of them.

This all made sense when I was a child. After all…

And here come some bullying remarks the child makes towards others for being disabled, fat, homeless and short. Therefore, this comparison associates the general acception of sex and gender with an underdeveloped intelect, lack of sufficient education and a lacking ability to empathise – you know, in most people across the planet, all aside from the illumined progressive bunch. Which would be quite insulting, if it could be taken seriously.

As a kid, I was proud to state all the things I knew were “true”… But as I aged, I realised my understanding had an impact on those around me!

The thing is, the weaknesses noticed by young bullies are usually objective observations that they use to their best advantage. What they lack is wisdom and kindness; however it does not mean they are unable to discern reality from fiction.

My values evolved! And yet, most people are still stuck on “gender”.We get ideas about gender. And somehow, they remain stagnant! “I’m a man cuz I can go pee standing up!”

This person’s values may have evolved in terms of feeling compassion and having a different attitude towards those he used to bully – however, values are not meant to distort someone’s perception until they start seeing what isn’t there as real (such as the ever-expanding gender list).

The general acception of what is and isn’t real (aside from spiritual beliefs, which are by default subjective) tends to only change when indisputable discoveries are made about the world. Therefore, there is no need to constantly question the fact that we use our eyes to see and our feet to walk – just as there is no need to re-evaluate male and female genitalia and associated traits.

“This has led to an entire planet… full of people suffering over outdated ideas.”

Perhaps I’m wrong but I doubt the Tumblr crowd ammounts to an entire planet. Across the world, people suffer for a multitude of reasons: war, famine, diseases, poverty, persecution, impairment, the loss of loved ones etc. If a primary cause of suffering was the  antiquated gender binary, that would make one rich, spoilt and secure world. Which it isn’t. This “suffering” is a whim of an immature segment of prosperous societies.

You can tell a lot about a person’s difficulties judging by their priorities. When your house has just burned down you don’t stress over missing a film on television later that night. The more shallow and capricious people are in their grievances, the more obvious it becomes that they don’t have serious problems to worry about.

We have boys who aren’t boyish enough, girls not girlish enough, boys who are too boyish, girls who are too girlish. And they all grow up with serious problems! They’re all victims!

That’s because no individual is spared bullying in this wonderful human tribe; many people seek to raise their self-esteem in the lowest way possible, by exploting the weaknesses of others and feeling better by comparison. Everyone has issues, unpleasant memories and a string of embarrasments throughout life. You cannot be good enough to avoid being taunted or rejected by one group or another. Someone, somewhere will take a dislike to you and express it; if you want to avoid that you might as well hide in a crypt somewhere. Social adversity is part of being human.

In this mindset, we would all, down to the last human being, be considered victims who victimise each other on a daily basis.

Meanwhile, us queer people catch hell just for being queer! If people aren’t going out of their way to harm us? Then we tend to harm ourselves. And it’s all because of this silly, antiquated, dangerous, shallow gender binary!

Hold on a second here. You can’t just include, under the “queer” umbrella, people who genuinely are homosexual or suffer from gender dysphoria and the adepts of made-up concepts such as the one below, randomly chosen from a list of hundreds:

Cendgender– When your gender changes between one gender and its polar opposite, OR a gender that can be summed up as an unidentifiable thing which manifests as hundreds of different genders or none at all at any given time, at the same time and/or separately, fluid, and ever changing.

Gay people were (and are) persecuted for religious reasons, not because of the gender binary, as left by nature and detailed by millennia of studying the human anatomy. As for the Tumblr snowflakes, you cannot talk about the persecution of categories which aren’t even valid; they were literally dreamt up yesterday by people with way too much time on their hands.

It’s time to try something new. Lets’ put the gender binary where it belongs (in the bin). Let’s express our gender as we please.

And in the process, force others to reconsider their idea of gender. Why not; let’s try something new; it sounds as easy as changing your brand of washing up liquid. Let’s just tear down our civilisation, rebuild it according to this new idea and see what happens. It’s not like it could just crumble to dust, like the Roman Empire. This trend is pushing  the gates wide open for those who want to centre their lives around whatever weirdness – and demand that you recognise them, lest you rot in prison.

Is maintaining the gender binary sustainable? Because I don’t think it is!

It’s not like it’s been in place since humans started walking this planet. Suddenly, it’s no longer sustainable. For the feelings of special snowflakes that is. As our species seems to keep advancing, at least techologically, without any hindrance caused by the gender binary monster.

What we’re doing now sure isn’t working for me!

And that’s why the entire world needs to change. Totally reasonable.

Has it done YOU any favours?

This is so funny as an argument that I don’t think it needs any comments.

I’d also like to point out a friendly nudge from the editors of Everyday Feminism, which is very relevant.

How do you defy traditional gender norms?

In other words, from a simple individual preference, defying the gender norms has become some sort of political statement or even social obligation we should all partake in.

Nice try.

More Identity Brain Mash

A short while ago, influential forces in western societies have given us the latest “discovery” in terms of human nature – that a person’s gender has nothing to with their biological sex. This unfounded,  not researched  and unproven view was grabbed by the left with both hands (and even hands it does not possess; such was the desperation) and flung at the world through social activism, as fact.

However, the demolition of the mind does not stop there (by the looks of it, there is no end in sight, until there’s nothing left but a memory of how people used to function and find balance).

Gender identity is separate from gender expression

I understand where some people have trouble: “If you express yourself in this way,” they wonder, “then doesn’t that imply that that is how you identify?”

Sorry for having to explain basic logic, but the mere concept of expressing yourself means projecting an aspect of yourself to the outside world. By doing so, you know exactly how you will be perceived, and it’s only logical for others to believe that you want to be perceived in this manner.

People claiming to be of a different gender than the one indicated by their biological sex often complain of being misgendered. In spite of their efforts to adapt their outer characteristics to the gender they want to be perceived as – one would think.

However, being trans and wanting to be recognised as the opposite sex while preserving all traits of your natural one is deliberately misleading. Wanting to be called a man, to be seen as a man, while being and appearing female in every way is just absurd.

Why would your appearance be called gender expression in the first place, if it has little or nothing to do with the gender you have chosen?

The expression masculine-of-centre is used.

Before even delving into the knot of ideas it must stand for, the very notion begs the question – what is masculine even supposed to represent anymore, if sex is not linked to gender and gender is not linked to gender expression? How can we use and define words such as male, female, masculine and feminine, after completely tearing them down? This should be fun (enough to throw down a pint in one breath to relieve the headache).

So here’s the definition:

Masculine of center (MOC) is a term, coined by B. Cole of the Brown Boi Project, that recognizes the breadth and depth of identity for lesbian/queer/ womyn who tilt toward the masculine side of the gender scale and includes a wide range of identities such as butch, stud, aggressive/AG, dom, macha, tomboi, trans-masculine etc.

So in lay terms, this refers to butch lesbians. For more recent inventions, you can find a broad list here of all “genders” and types of sexual attraction.

Here’s one definition which sums up the spirit of the entire list:

Maverique
Having a gender characterized by autonomy and inner conviction regarding a sense of self that is entirely independent of male/masculine, feminine/femininity, or anything which derives from the two while still being neither without gender nor of a neutral gender. Rhymes with antique (mav-reek).

The question remains – what in the world is masculinity or femininity as a point of reference, in a system of thought which deems it obsolete to be male or female?

As you might expect, that’s not all the “word salad” being served up.

From this article  you can learn that your “romantic” orientation is separate from your sexual one. And in case you didn’t know what a romantic orientation is, here is some enlightenment so you can get to know yourself better:

By “romantic attraction,” I mean a deep desire to have a committed, romantic relationship with someone, and by “sexual attraction,” I mean a desire to have sexual contact with someone.

Pardon my confusion but I was under the impression that the two go together; otherwise we’d call said bond a friendship or platonic love, which has already been coined, so to speak. The desire for physical intimacy in a couple is implied; it’s just what happens.

Although there is one instance when these two “orientations” are invariably separated, and that is  when bestiality is involved. I needn’t explain why, but I do remember a funny line from Father Ted: “We want to stay out of that whole idea of being in love with the horse”.

Cross orientation, also known as “mixed orientation,” is a term given to describe a situation where someone experiences romantic attraction to a different gender group to who they’re sexually attracted to.

An example of someone with a cross-orientation is a woman who is homosexual, but heteroromantic. She would feel sexually attracted to other women, but she’d only experience romantic attraction to people of another gender.

When you start referring to groups in situations which involve individuals, it’s proof that socialism has soaked your brain to the unfortunate degree of  placing everyone into inexistent categories and sticking inexistent labels on them.

This is a personal matter people experience differently and I sincerely doubt every situation of this type has to turn into a pattern  and a lifestyle, to warrant such generalisations.

Someone might also be heterosexual and biromantic, homosexual and panromantic, homoromantic and heterosexual, and so on. For some people, their romantic and sexual orientations might change every day, which means they’re sexually and/or romantically fluid. The possibilities are endless.

You know, I’ve never heard someone say they’re straight today but might be gay tomorrow, or vice-versa. If anything, it goes against what LGBT activism argues, which is that sexual orientation is something you’re born with, influenced by genetic predispositions. This attitude makes it look like a choice one can change on a whim, from one day to the next, like a pair of socks. Sure, there are types who would fuck anything with a pulse, but I trust they are in the absolute minority.

For cross-oriented people, that’s naturally a problem. Sometimes we’re unable to be sexually attracted to someone because of their gender, even if we’re romantically attracted to them – and vice versa.

It’s just a matter of recognising how these two combine and manifest in real life. We can theorise and philosophise all we want; the reality is chemistry plays a big part in how people get together. And if a person decides to form a couple with someone they’re not really attracted to, that is a conscious decision regarding that particular individual, not a “romantic orientation”; as if anyone purposely sought out relationships devoid of physical attraction.

Even those who aren’t cross-oriented might have face a similar issue. For example, a heterosexual woman might find herself sexually attracted to a certain man, without being romantically attracted to him.
Which probably happens on a daily basis to a lot of people, based on instinct alone and not  binding in any way; one does not even have to acknowledge such impulses for more than a split second, let alone ruminate as if they posed an actual problem.

Heteronormative thinking invisibilizes cross-orientation. It tells us that we don’t exist, which is an issue that many queer people face in general.

Because of this, we might have to deal with many incorrect assumptions and expectations. This can lead to us dealing with a number of difficult situations, including:

  • Being expected to enter a romantic relationship with a sexual partner who you’re not romantically attracted to.
  • A romantic partner feeling inadequate because you’re not sexually attracted to them.
  • People assuming that you’re in a sexual relationship with your romantic partner.
  • Being unable to find cross-oriented people represented in the media.

Ultimately, learning about the complexity of attraction will help us challenge these assumptions and affirm the feelings and experiences of cross-oriented people. And it’s really important that we do – because it feels awful to be surrounded by heteronormative thinking when you’re cross-oriented.

Why do I get the feeling some of these people are perpetually alone and split the atom in order to feel better about that?

Partners ultimately not being suitable for each other is an issue which I’m sure predates civilisation; so is one-sided love or one-sided attraction. A “romantic partner” one does not engage with intimately and has no plans of doing so is not a romantic partner, but a friend. None of this is new under the sun; there’s no need to label it and start screeching about “not being represented in the media”.

How about some accountability FFS? Why enter into a relationship which you know is hopeless, if the would-be partner is attracted to you and you are not? Is it carved in stone that all the people you’ll end up sexually active with will be such disappointments on other levels that no other bonds will ever form? Isn’t this world big enough and enjoying enough freedom of movement for you to one day find a suitable partner, with whom all the pieces fit into the puzzle? Is this your way of saying you’ve given up on that prospect and expect those who connect with you intimately to settle for half-assed open relationships? And if so, why not just do that quietly, without feeling the need to blame it on society? Is not settling for such arrangements somehow discriminatory and the fault of heteronormativity?

Here are a few examples of different kinds of attraction:

Sensual attraction is a deep desire to touch someone, to hold them, hug them, and/or cuddle them. 

Aesthetic attraction is an appreciation for the way someone looks.

Platonic attraction is an attraction to someone that isn’t romantic. This often manifests as a desire to be friends.

 What the author defines as sensual attraction is merely an inherent human need, which is rooted in affection. You wouldn’t say you feel sensual attraction towards your children, though you feel the need to cuddle them.

The Merriam Webster definition of “romantic” is of, relating to, or involving love between two people. Hence, platonic attraction combined with sexual attraction. It’s a very simple concept, but somehow manages to elude these strange leftists who could more easily take apart a rocket than figure out how humans actually work.